what is a mother?

[jinnyb]

ok here's the thing

when black canary finds out that hawke is after her and wants to take Dinah and run.
Oracle tells Dinah that it is not up to her that Carolyn is her mother.
But it has been ten years and despite all good intentions, how much claim does she still have to this title?
Is barbara being too calm, and quick to give Dinah up to her, for she has been more of a mother to Dinah in the last ten years then B. Canary. (besides to get really into reality- Barabara has legal custody)
{and wouldn't dinah be safer at the clock tower where hawke doesn't know she is the daughter of black canary then with her}

Barabra says that maybe dinah doesn't need a mother but a mentor. But it seems to me that at 16 she might need both, only Carolyn can't expect to waltz in after ten years and immediatly assume the role. (though her willingness and gumption seemed real, as well as Dinah's hessitance and acceptance and back again attitude)
Any way this was the one thing that bugged me.

I think much of Dinahs morning is going to be a loss of what she never had, which can be very powerful.

[AngelQueen]

I have to agree. When the building blew, she tried to run back in, desperate to save the B.C. Helena, of course, wouldn't let her and just let Dinah cry in her arms. She, in my opinion, was crying for a mother she barely knew, but could have if Hawke hadn't thrown a monkey wrench into everything.

But I have to ask this. Did Hawke know that B.C. had a daughter? She told Dinah that there was an explosive under her bed one night. That lead me to believe that he, or someone else, knew that B.C. had little girl at home waiting for her. Personally, I think Hawke knew, he just didn't know the specifics, like her name. If he did, he would have probably nabbed her long before this, to bate B.C.

And I think that Dinah was right. Since when was B.C. her mother? Biology can only go so far. And the two of them hadn't seen one another in over a decade. I think that, in Dinah's eyes, the closest person to ever come close to being her mother was Barbara. She and Helena are her family, as far as she's concerned.

Just my two cents.

AQ

[SlinkySelina]

I agree with everythin you both have said and I also think that Dinah felt betrayed that B.C. made such a life-altering decision to leave her somewhere and not discuss what was happening too. I mean one day she had her mother and next she didn't without knowing why, which lead to years of feeling something was wrong with her and that's why her mom left. Logically, her mom couldn't tell her but at six that doesn't matter when you've lost not only your dad earlier and bam(!) then your mom too.

*deposits her 2 cents into the bank*